When the Shiny Path Fails to Satisfy

"THIS IS MY TOO TIRED TO FUNCTION SWEATSHIRT"

What to do when the spotlight isn’t enough, and your soul just wants to kick off its shoes.

It’s normal to try to make sense of things.

Not in a: “How can I solve world peace before lunch?” kind of way. But in a: “Please let this have some meaning or I might scream into a decorative throw pillow,”  kind of way.

We want life to have a through-line. A rhythm. A reason. 

And when it doesn’t? We spiral.

Especially in a world that rewards clarity, tidiness, and having a personal brand with a matching aesthetic. (Yes, I’m talking to you, beige pantry influencers.)

But real life is weird. It’s confusing. It’s stunning and maddening and totally out of our control. And when the glitter starts to fall off, most of us go looking for something—anything—that feels real.

Fame & Glory -or- Peace & Happiness

Celebrities are fascinating case studies in the whole this-should-feel-good-but-it-doesn’t dilemma.

They work hard to “become somebody.” They build brands, sell out arenas, and collect trophies that probably require their own home insurance policy. But listen closely and you’ll hear it:

• Taylor Swift sings about being surrounded by screaming fans but craving a quiet, private kind of love.

• Jim Carrey—formerly the guy for rubber-faced slapstick—now gives talks about ego death and spiritual detachment.

• Justin Bieber and Selena Gomez have both opened up about faith and mental health.

• Demi Lovato, Katy Perry, Kanye West, the list goes on.

The recurring theme? Fame is loud. But the soul wants quiet.

You can be adored by millions and still feel like no one really sees you. Because visibility isn’t the same thing as intimacy.And applause can’t hold your hand when things fall apart.

The Crowd Is Loud. The Soul Is Lonely.

It’s not just celebrities.We all perform in our own way—on Instagram, at work, even in our own families.

And eventually, we hit a moment where the mask slips.Where the effort feels too heavy.Where we whisper to ourselves, “Is this it? Is this really all there is?”

Spoiler alert: it’s not.

And that whisper? That ache? That tug toward something quieter and more meaningful?

That’s not weakness. That’s wisdom.

Enter: The Narrow Road

When the wide, obvious, well-lit road doesn’t satisfy, we start looking for the weird path. The still path.The one that doesn’t make sense to other people but feels true in your bones.

Friends, I’m not a real religious gal, but there IS a bible verse that captures this concept nicely:

Enter through the narrow gate. For wide is the gate and broad is the road that leads to destruction…But small is the gate and narrow the road that leads to life, and only a few find it.

(Matthew 7:13–14)

The wide road is busy and loud and full of approval. But the narrow road ? That’s the one where you start listening again. Where you stop performing. Where you stop chasing applause and start chasing peace.

Religion is Campfire

Many people, when they get to this point, turn to religion. Sometimes slowly. Sometimes headfirst like a cannonball into still waters.

This freaks people out. Friends say, “You’ve changed.”Internet commenters say, “They’ve gone off the deep end.”And maybe they have—but maybe that deep end is finally deep enough to hold what they’ve been carrying.

A wise friend of mine who walks confidently in his faith once said:

Religion is like a campfire. When tended properly, it can warm you. Light the way. Draw others close. But if left unmanaged, it can burn the whole forest down.”

That stuck with me.

Because whether it’s religion, reflection, stillness, or soul-searching—we need to tend to it, not just fling ourselves into the flames hoping it’ll fix us.

Return to the Basics. The Barefoot Kind.

You know who gets this right? Kids.

They ask “why?” about everything—not to be difficult, but to make sense of a world that doesn’t always explain itself. They play. They rest when they’re tired. They cry when things hurt. They feel stuff all the way through, and then ask for a snack.

And maybe the reason they seem so emotionally free is because they’re comfortable with the fact that “not knowing” isn’t a flaw—it’s a starting point.

Sometimes the most grown-up thing you can do is return to the barefoot basics.

Play. Wonder. Rest.

Keep asking questions–without needing them all answered.

Because we’re not meant to understand everything.

We’re meant to seek wisdom—not wrap life in a neat little quote card and pretend we’re not still aching.

Tend to Your Grief. Don’t Try to Tame It.

The same friend once told me this during a season of loss, and I haven’t forgotten it:

“Tend to your grief. Don’t try to tame it.”

We want our grief to be logical. Neat. Instagrammable, even. We want to know why it hurts so much, what it means, and where it leads.

We want to know what happens to us when our time on Earth is up. Where our soul goes. What becomes of all we’ve built and all we’ve loved.

But maybe the most honest thing we can do is to tend. To sit with the questions instead of silencing them.To care for the ache without trying to cure it.

You don’t have to package your pain. You don’t have to fix it. You just have to stay with it. Let it soften you. Let it lead you gently toward what’s real.

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Dive deeper with the "5M" MoveMaker Method - exploring EQ from all angles:

Mini Takeaway:

Visibility ≠ intimacy. Applause can’t hold your hand. When the noise feels empty, it’s not weakness to crave quiet—it’s wisdom. Sometimes your soul just wants to kick off its shoes and walk barefoot on the narrow road.

Music Reco:

“Quiet” by MILCK. An anthem born from stillness and strength. It’s about reclaiming your voice—not for applause, but for peace.

Mindful Snack:

When life feels loud, go for something grounding:

🥑 Whole-grain toast

🍋 Smashed avocado with lemon

🧂 Sprinkle of sea salt

Simple. Nourishing. Unfussy.

Movement Exercise:

The Narrow Road Reset:

1️⃣ Step outside barefoot (grass, dirt, sand—whatever you’ve got).

2️⃣ Close your eyes.

3️⃣ Take 3 slow breaths, imagining the noise of the world fading behind you.

4️⃣ Whisper: “Presence brings peace.”

Mind-Bender:

What if the road that makes you look a little “off the deep end”… is the very one leading you home?

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