Don't Repeat That

I asked Benny for a hug the other day and he said, “I can’t right now. I’ve got a lot of work to do.” OUCH. That hurt me on so many levels. First of all, I didn’t get the hug I wanted and I really could have used it. Secondly, he heard that somewhere…and I’m pretty sure it was from me. His little eyes and ears don’t miss anything. When I’m zoned in on my laptop or feverishly answering texts on my phone, he notices. When he asks me to play with him and I say, “Not right now,” he remembers. In that moment, I would so much rather have heard him repeat a curse word that I let slip out than, “I’ve got a lot of work to do.” This past winter I planned on catching up on some work one night after the kids went to bed. I had just gotten situated when I heard little feet on the floor coming down the hallway. I thought about telling him to get back in bed, but I didn’t. On that night, I asked if he wanted to snuggle with me on the couch. He did. I closed my computer and we both stared at the Christmas tree across the room until he fell asleep in my lap. I didn’t get any work done that night, but I don’t care. That night I chose what was important over what was “urgent,” and I’m really glad I did.

Do you have a good work/life balance?

“Your personal boundaries protect the inner core of your identity and your right to choices.” - Gerard Manley Hopkins

Try putting a few boundaries in place this week and see how it makes you feel. It might piss off your boss if you don't answer after hours, but it might also give your brain a chance to recharge so you can do better work tomorrow. They'll get over it.